Thursday, August 5, 2010

Old Habits Die Hard

As a kid, my parents - my Mum, mostly - would tell me things. You know, typical parent stuff like, "if you keep crossing your eyes they're going to stay like that," and, "one day you'll run out of breath so you'd better stop talking." Most of it I never really believed and realized it was just a bunch of nonsense but some I actually believed and have kept with me until recently. Seriously.

I'm 29 years old for goodness sake and only this summer have I really began to think critically about some of the ridiculous things my Mum told me when I was a kid. For example, she insisted to me that I only use conditioner on the ends of my hair because otherwise, the roots would never be clean and my hair would be perpetually greasy. I only ever used conditioner on the ends of my hair until we had some family photos taken a couple of weeks ago. In preparation for the photos I decided to take a risk and condition all my hair *gasp* since it would need the extra moisture from blowdrying anyway. Amazingly, my hair looks healthy and shiny and isn't at all greasy.

The other thing she always told me was about my bras. I have a relatively large chest; even bigger when I'm breastfeeding or pregnant. So does she. She insisted to me that I wear bras that have absolutely no padding in them so as not to make my chest size any larger than it already was. I've been frustrated my whole life with sagging boobs and bras that don't fit quite right. My epiphany moment was while talking to a friend who also has big breasts. She told me that bras without padding are the worst for her because she just stretches them out within a dozen uses. The padded ones hold their shape much better and offer her far more support without creating a uni-boob. My Mum would just die knowing I wear padded bras... well, I will when the boob juice stops flowing.

Another strange myth that sticks in my mind is about makeup. I don't wear makeup but not because I never wanted to. When I was a teen I suffered from acne - like any teen - and went on birth control pills to help control it. At the time my doctor advised me to not use foundation or powder because it could clog my pores and cause irritation. My Mum convinced me that makeup of any kind would damage my skin. Eyeliner, mascara, blush; anything expect for oil-free moisturizer and suncreen had to be completely avoided. I believed her and so, never learned to use any of that stuff. Now I'm closing in on 30 and not only is the cosmetic aisle at the pharmacy overwhelming, I've never even worn foundation a single day in my life. Well, maybe that's a lie. I wore it for my wedding but that was thanks to my mother-in-law who did it for me. I'm positive my face will not break out into wild, angry zits the moment I put on any form of makeup.

There's so many other wierd things my Mum told me would happen that only now I am realizing were literally 'old wives' tales'. She was a country gal and maybe she learned all these things from her Mum. Wherever they came from, I can't believe I have 3 kids of my own and am only starting to think critically about these wild ideas.

4 comments:

Tamrah said...
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Tamrah said...

I liked this post! On the other end of the spectrum I had no mum to tell me these things and yet, I hardly wear makeup and am still not sure I can make the transition to padded bras. I've only figured out how to use the blowdryer in the last two years and eyeliner is still a mystery! The sense (myth) I was taught was that any of these things might make you a floozy so it was discouraged (that must have had something to do with a single dad raising a girl ;). Oh my, I just remembered the first time I shaved my legs - that was a mess that resulted in a see-through lie :) However, being a full-head conditioner I have to say that sometimes, something strange does happen! Every few months my head does turn into a caked greasy ball - until the next wash and I still can't figure out why. Now that both of my parents are gone - similar to you growing up and away from your parents - and I get the chance to dapple with makeup and clothes, jewelery and maybe even nailpolish I kind of like that I get to try them for the first time with a 'wiser' head.

With all the reading that you do and the knowledge we have access to, I wonder what kind of myths you will pass on to the boys - if any.

Olivia said...

I love this post Michelle!! It's funny how these things stick with you forever.
I didn't wear sunscreen, for the very same reason you don't wear make-up! My mum told me not to because it would irritate my acne...which it did at the time, but at 31 years old, I don't usually have to worry about it these days. I've discovered Neutrogena sunscreen, and it ROCKS!!
I am a Victoria's Secret-aholic, so I know that padded bras are incredible for shaping and retaining (I only wish that they'd had nursing bras when I was pregnant with Addie - now they have them), but I'm a thong/g-string type of girl...my mum was horrified that I wore them, bc I don't like to see my panties through my pants!
My most favorite thing she told me was that I only look good with long hair. It's only been since I was around 26 that I've experimented with my hair. I always had the same below the shoulder, bangs/fringe. I've learned that I can do anything I want with my hair. If it doesn't look that great, I can style it the best I can, and cut it in another couple of months.

Once again, I LOVE this post!

Michelle said...

Going through the day today reminded me of one other thing: wearing nail polish for more than a few days at a time will cause my toenails to discolor and become brittle. Granted there's some truth in this, but only if you wear the stuff for months on end. She said it was imperative that my toe nails be allowed to 'breathe', as if they have lungs of their own!, so I was never allowed to wear polish for more than a long weekend; at which point it was to be removed for at least a week.

Tamrah, I'm sure I'll pass on my own bits of quirkiness to my boys but I like to hope it will be things like rinsing your dishes before putting them in the sink, clipping nails outside or over a garbage can, washing beard whiskers down the sink and wiping the sticky coffee ring from the countertop.

Olivia, I did the thong thing when I was thinner and had nicer clothes. Now I find they just make me look chubbier and in a pair of track pants, kind of trashy. LOL I'm envious that you can get away with wearing them! I'll bet Gary loves them! LOL