Friday, February 27, 2009
Homeownership
Do any of you have security systems in your house? We have one but the former owners told us it was deactivated and they knew nothing about it. No owners manual or anything. Well, it's been acting up lately. And not just any acting up - more like beeping when I walk into the kitchen and having a complete spaz attack when I open the system control panel. I finally got around to calling the company.
"Hi. We just moved into a new house that has a security system from your company but we weren't given any information on it so I'd like some help. Especially since it seems to be acting up lately and we have no idea how to turn it off."
"Okay. What's your address?"
"458 ________ Drive."
"NO. WAY. I've been trying to get a hold of the owners of that house for ages. Your house is on my short list to get back up and running so we'd be very interested in working out a deal with you."
"Really? What's going on?"
Long story short: two owners before us installed a VERY sophisticated security system (motion detectors, window and door sensors, floor sensors, the works) and signed a 5 year contract for monitoring. They paid one year and then the company never heard from them again. So now the company says we don't own the system and they want it back. We're just waiting for a call from the owner of the company so we can work all this out. Our issue is that we have no interest in paying for monitoring (afterall, we moved to this neighbourhood because it's quiet and peaceful, not so that we could activate some high-tech device in our house) and if they take it, we'll be left with holes in our walls. No freaking way is that happening! Does anyone know real estate law well enough to be able to advise us?
Next on the agenda: the raccoon living under the addition. Yes. Or we thought it was a raccoon. The home inspector noted a spot under the addition that appeared to be dug out and said there was probably a creature living under there. Once we moved in, Craig placed wood in front of the hole and filled it in with stones and such. Every morning he'd go back and check and the wood was moved and the burrow redug. Finally last week, he peed on the spot. You know, animal to animal, he was marking his territory. Then he filled the hole back in and covered it with wood again. There was no movement for about 3 days. Then yesterday morning I woke up around 6 to a bad smell. A skunk had sprayed outside somewhere. Pewww-eee. I tried to go back to sleep but the smell just kept getting worse. It woke Craig up and both the boys. Shaun was hiding his face in his jammies. The smell was nauseating and we just couldn't get away from it.
Then we looked outside. Mr. Raccoon is actually Mr. Skunk. Mr. Skunk's dainty little footprints were all over the backyard, looping around the house and entering and exiting the little burrow at least a couple of times. And he sprayed our house - oh boy, did he spray. We carried the smell in our coats, Shaun brought it to school and it permeated our van. At the grocery store, Craig and I had to find an empty aisle to remove our coats and air out our clothes. I'm positive people around us thought we were rubby-dubs because we smelled so terrible.
The air outside was sweet and fresh when we arrive back home. We had opened the windows before we left and turned off the furnace (no sense in heating the outside, right?) so it would have aired out by now, right? It had been nearly 4 hours. No such luck. The smell inside the house hadn't disspated at all. In fact, it was almost worse than when we had left because we had been away from it for so long. Thankfully it seems to be a bit better this morning - ie. I'm not gagging while I sit here typing this - but I haven't been outside yet. I may just be used to it which is almost worse.
The strategy now: call the City and see if they have some sort of free service to remove animals from private property. I don't want to hurt him (if it is indeed a He) but I certainly don't want him living here. And I don't want to risk it being a She and for her to have babies under there. Ideally he'll leave in the spring because we make too much noise and there would be other options at that time but I'm not sure I want to wait that long. He may spray again in the meantime! Welcome Home Martin Family!
Saturday, February 21, 2009
5 Under 5
Proof for Aaron and Melissa that their boys were happy the whole time they were here. Surprisingly, there have been no tears and only a couple of outbursts that required more than a stern reminder of the rules.
Ian's persistent mohawk is still around. No matter what I do: comb it, gel it, use baby lotion on it after a bath, flatten it with saliva - seriously!, it still pops right back up. I've decided to embrace it and am considering dying it green.
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
In Pursuit of Happiness
I think one of the most basic needs of everyone on Earth, after food and shelter, is to be happy. My dad said something quite profound in one of his emails from India. He was talking about how poor so many people in India are but who is to say that they aren't happy? He was astounded by how kind and polite everyone is there, no matter what their socioeconomic status happens to be.
I often look down on people because they happen to have different goals than I have. Like their priorities are a fancy car or nice clothing or lots of kids' toys or the latest-and-greatest electronic instead of a vehicle they can afford or simple clothes and toys or a plain old TV that works just fine. But who am I to judge whether these things bring them happiness or not? They wouldn't bring me happiness but I'm not the one going and getting the fancy car now am I? I know what brings me happiness and it has nothing to do with the things I have; nothing to do with where I live or how I was raised.
Happiness comes to me through my husband and my children. Every day I am blessed by being able to wake up to the sound of little feet running into my room and the question, "Is it morning time yet Mummy?". I get to peer over the side of the crib to a sweet baby face smiling innocently back at me, just because he's happy to see me. Every day at 1:00 I can nuzzle my husband goodbye as he walks out the front door to head off to work. We are lucky to have one another.
We are so lucky to be so happy.
Monday, February 16, 2009
Li' C
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Six Months Gone, just like that

Boogeyman, 3 1/2 years old
Saturday, February 14, 2009
Juicy Carrots
My parents have a friend who ate too many carrots one day and her fair skin had an orange hue the next day. That's a LOT of carrots!
Friday, February 13, 2009
On another note, good old Aunt Flo arrived today for a, hopefully, short visit. It's been six months since I saw her last and honestly she hasn't been missed. Too bad she's sleeping in our room.
Wednesday, February 11, 2009
Nibbles
I love playing with my boys and this afternoon Shaun's neck was ripe for nibbling. "Nibble" is a verb, a noun and an adjective in this house. We 'nibble one another', we say 'the nibble's gonna get you' and when something tastes extra good, it's 'nibble-icious'. Ian is slowly getting the hang of the whole nibble thing we have going on here because he was screaming like a pro this afternoon when I finally got to his chubby neck fat. I love how Shaun loves and hates it all at the same time. He screams and tries to get away and carries on and on saying that you're hurting him and to get away, but as soon as you stop he comes bounding back with the energy only a 3 year old can have trying to get to your neck. It's wonderful!
I didn't want the day to end. But once bath time was done and I had quietly read a story to Shaun and nursed Ian one last time, somehow the dimmed lights in the kitchen helped me feel relieved they were upstairs snuggled in their beds. I really do have a wonderful life, complete with Nibbles.
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
Living the Life
Craig's new TV arrived yesterday and he's been in Plasma HD Heaven ever since. The TV Stand is on backorder and won't arrive until the beginning of March so we have the TV on a toybox in the meantime. Hopefully Shaun doesn't want anything in there!Tuesday, February 3, 2009
Moving On
1 Day.
Monday, February 2, 2009
Countdown Means Time to Panic
Even though the move was fairly soon in comparison to how long some people wait to close a new home, it still sort of snuck up on me. Today's Monday, so there's tomorrow and the next day to get everything ready. That's not much time. And it's not even the packing that's left to do; that's nearly done. I'm worrying about making sure boxes are piled neatly for the movers so they can load them quickly and taping all the screws, etc. to the dismantled furniture so we can put it back together with ease. Nevermind all the clean laundry that I'm going to have to deal with in the meantime. I think we'll end up moving some laundry in laundry baskets and washing it at the new place.
And darn, I need more boxes. My guess: there's 60 in the garage at the new place. There's another 20 already packed and waiting in the kitchen and stacked in the hallway upstairs. I think I need 10 or so more. Ninety boxes!!!
3 sleeps.
Saturday, January 31, 2009
Train Horrors
Yes, train horror is the only way to describe it. The train on the tracks was not our train. So we waited and waited. At 5 minutes before our departure time the wrong train was still on our tracks. Wait, did we just hear that our train is on track #13? I screamed up the stairs to check, no our train is still supposed to be on Track #14. Then an announcement - our train is on time. Wait, where is it? I had checked this train and it was not our train, it had no first class car. Porter, quick where is our train. Oh so slowly he said right here sir. But this is the wrong train - it says 2306 not 2652. But it is the correct train sir. How can it be - where is the first class car? Oh so slowly and complacently he jerked his thumb over his shoulder. But I was all the way down there and there was no first class car, but wait, I didn't go all the way. I stopped when I saw the kitchen car and the baggage car, I assumed the next car was another baggage car and then the engine. You mean the second last car all the way down at the far end of the train, like 20 cars away? Oh so slowly he said yes sir but I know he didn't mean the sir part. He was enjoying our agony.I ran to get Jacky and we picked up our 5 bags and started running to the far end of the train. We got to car 15 or so and it started moving. Holy crap, we've missed the train. Wait. Jacky - can you jump? NO. Give me your bags, you've got to jump and bless her heart, she jumped like a pole vaulter and up she was. And for a fleeting moment I pictured her chugging off into the distance while I stayed on the platform with the bags. But no, one by one I ran and threw each bag on and then got on myself.But it wasn't over yet. Now we had to navigate down 19 inch aisle with 18 inch bags and feet and knees and elbows everywhere. It was horrible. The stench was unbearable. The train dumps all its raw sewage right on the tracks and let me tell you, pig shit is sweet odour from heaven compared to human shit. Oh it was awful. And no-one move out of the way. For the first time we saw the inhospitable side of Indians. They resented us moving through their cars and we had to fight every inch of the way and mum was first. I was so upset by the time I got to our car because I knew mum would be in tears. But it turned out to be me. I felt so sorry that I had put her though that experience. We were just stunned for a few hours and did nothing but lie there in our bunks. I can't even talk about the toilet. And this was first class. Four more train trips to go. It will be grim that's all I can say. We really hit a low point last night.But, today in Varanasi our hotel is superb. What a relief to have a wonderful boutique hotel that is clean and gorgeous. It will never make up for yesterday's grief, but it helps.Well, we expected the worst but this was really rather worse than I counted on even in my nightmares. The stench was really unbearable. We thought it was on the train and I really figured that we were done. There was no way we could sit on a train for 12 hours with that stench. But it did pass in time only to show up again at the next station. Oh well, variety is the spice of life.See you all soon, Love Dad.
Oh my poor parents! I didn't know whether to laugh or beg them to come home when I read this. I cannot believe there's raw sewage being dumped everywhere. I don't know if I'd go so far as to call the smell of sewage 'variety' though. Sheesh, Dad really has a way with words, huh?
Friday, January 30, 2009
Missing You
Mum's:
Hello again, Sorry to hear you're sick Michelle but hopefully everyone will be all better by the time you move. Your Dad has turned into a shopping machine, yesterday he bought a cabinet that he now has to lug around! He seems to be managing the Delhi Belly Ok but his meds are half done! I also got that bladder infection again! Not fun!!!!! This is our last morning at this site. By lunch time we will have a taxi for the rest of the day for some final site seeing/shopping and then the train at 8:30 tonight, which we are warned will most likely be late! It has been very comfortable here. The breakfasts are fabulous so usually we eat only twice a day. I do miss home more than usual. I was really overwhelmed the first 2 or 3 days. Too many open sewers, and poor, but yesterday we found a place that was green and fresh and we had a blast negotiating tut-tut fares. Every one is very friendly and as curious about us as we might be of them. At a craft museum yesterday just one girl of about ten mustered up enough courage to greet me and shake my hand then the whole school followed suit - I think your Dad got it on video, you'll see it later. I've often thought of Craig on this trip I think he'd be agast at the sights! So far we've had great success with the food very tasty. Our next stop will be even more difficult since it will be on the Ganges where there are funeral pyres. Not looking forward to this place and it will be difficult to leave our hosts which have guided us so well here. Well must go since Dad wants his turn. Say hi to Shaun. I tear up when I think of him, miss him so much, and Ian must be a pro at sitting on his own now! Love u Mom
Dad's:
Namaste to all!
Another glorious sunny day here in Delhi, which I have to throw in because the Hindustani Times says that the weather in NE States is terrible, some without power for a week. Got to gloat a little. And of course, power is never far from my mind. We're just waiting for the taxi to take us to our next stop - 12 hour overnight train trip to Varanasi. A little scary and exciting at the same time.
I'm getting used to the assault on the senses here - visual, olfactoral (real word?) and sensual - yes sensual. Everywhere you go, if you're not touching someone, you're not close enough. In the line at the bank I found that if you're not touching the guy in front and if the guy in back is not touching you, someone will assume you must not be in line. A six inch space is big enough for a rickshaw to squeeze, never mind a skinny Indian. All the sights that at first seemed so unreal (the tent cities, the filthy shops, the traffic) and that I tried to obsessively photograph are everywhere. No use rushing to get a picture, you'll see that crowded, dirty little store a hundred times before the week is out. But once you get used to it you start to see past it and you wonder what might be of interest inside. Before long it 'disappears' and you find yourself talking to them and trying to buy what's inside. The whole poverty thing is so complicated. There are so many levels of poverty here and I've spent a lot of time thinking about it and trying to understand it.
I'll have lots to say about it when I get back home so get the scotch ready. Most important is the question whether they or we are happier. The comraderie we see, especially among men, is so unusual, it really gives me pause for thought. Anyway, as you can see, Mum and I are writing separately and I have no idea what she has written so if there is duplication, it is what it is. Have thought a lot about your babies while we're here, especially because so many of the naked children we see are smaller even than Shaun - look forward to seeing them when we get back. We'll check in again to let you know we're alive. Love to all, Dad
I find it interesting that I miss my parents so much. It's not like I see them any more than every 3 or 4 weeks but just knowing that I can't even call them makes it feel like it's been longer. It's been hard trying to explain to Shaun why he can't call Gramma and talk to her. He tells people she's in India with Grampa and will be home in February but he told me last night that he's going to steal the keys for the van and drive to go see them. And then they're going to ride on scooters all the way home. My brother has an orange scooter and his wife has a blue one (I think it's blue, correct me if I'm wrong Tamrah!) and Shaun just loves them. His favourite mode of transportation lately is by scooter. Probably because he just saw Steve and Tamrah a couple of weeks ago and it jogged his memory. Anyway, back to the parents. Two more weeks can't pass soon enough. I can't wait to hear they're home safe from the airport and have them over to our new house for a long chat over a big bottle of scotch.
Tuesday, January 27, 2009
The Parents
Mum's:
Hello there everyone, well the going has been rough but I've survived the first three days. The poverty is more than I had feared but the people are very friendly, our hosts here are especially nice. But my first reaction is that I will never let Dad totally plan our vacation again. Today we went to see some typical tourist sights and it was comforting to see some familiar faces. Have seen lots of neat stuff to bring back home, of course Dad has bought first! I'm still deciding. We have been having some trouble with the different time change, and were surprised at how warm it is.We leave here on Fri on an over night train, now that will be something else. Talk to you later. Miss you all special hello to Shaun and kisses for my babies. Love Mum
Dad's:
Oh the chaos, the exhilaration, the sadness, and oh, the stress. Still suffering from jetlag and the stress of navigating, communicating and sorting everything out while keeping mum from having a heart attack is quite real. No one except high class people speaks English, so that means all the rickshaw, taxi and vendor people speak only Hindi. Try asking your rickshaw driver to stay while he's got his hand out trying to get paid and then finding out when you do want to pay him that he has no change. The rickshaw guys are more lost than we are and I have had to quickly learn Baayan! Daayan! Seeda! (left, right, and straight ahead my good man). A good cuff on the shoulder works wonders. And then trying to figure out which is the correct road on a roundabout while he screams his engine at top rev, honks his horn CONTINUOSLY, and while you see out of the corner of your eye naked children living in makeshift shacks at the side of the road and try to snap a picture without crying, is well, stressful. But exhilarating too. Wouldn't miss it for the world (Mum is having a harder time coping, but is a good trojan). Ate lunch today at the Taj Mahal hotel - best chinese restaurant in India (so says the guide book and now I agree) for $150 and yesterday we ate lunch at a muslim market (very freaky) for 20 cents. No kidding, the contrasts in India are mind boggling. Anyway, know we're safe (not a single bit of trouble yet, yes, we've been very nervous, but for no good reason it turns out - every single person has been wonderful and full of wonder (at us!)). So we'll write again (I didn't see mum's note and she isn't seeing mine - it will be fun to compare later!). Wishing you were here, Dad
While I'm wishing I was seeing all the things they are, I'm happy to be home snuggled up with Craig and my familiar bagels in the freezer. I think the stories will be enough for me.
Bovine Train
I grit my teeth at the next feeding waiting to see if my last experience would repeat itself. It doesn't and he is fine. Beyond fine actually. He goes through the rest of the day happier than he's been in a long time.
Seems like I can go back to drinking milk. Ian's been fine and I've added back in all the other dairy products that I love so much. Yogurt, cheese, milk, everything. Surprised? What did you think I was talking about?!
Sunday, January 25, 2009
Growing Boys
Friday, January 23, 2009
Ted
Shaun's a thumbsucker. I tried, honestly I did, to get him to love a suckie as a baby but that darn thumb kept finding its way into his little mouth. Now he's 3 1/2 and while he only uses the thumb briefly to fall asleep, it still bothers me. I'd hate for him to ruin his teeth because he's sucking on a body part. At our check-up in August with the dentist, Shaun allowed the doctor to get a really good look at his teeth and even clean them. We were told at that time that Shaun's teeth aren't affected at all from the thumbsucking. The doctor admitted that he wouldn't have known Shaun sucks his thumb if we hadn't told him. That's good news I suppose.
But today I caught Shaun with his only-love: his bear Ted. The house rules state that Ted and any of Ted's companions (there are many) must stay in Shaun's bed at all times. No exceptions. Okay, maybe a few... but most of the time there's no exceptions. Shaun managed to sneak Ted downstairs today while I was feeding Ian and when I caught Shaun with Ted later, he made that promise to me. No matter though, Ted found his way via air back upstairs.
With my oldest starting school in September I'd love to kick the thumb habit before then. Starting with his trigger: Ted.
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
Labels
I spend so much time thinking about the perfect label for boxes so I can summarize what's inside in one word. One glance and I know what's in there. Bathroom. Wheels. Dress-up. Puzzles. I'm nearing the end and now it's come down to: Ian's Room - soft toys, crib aquarium, extra wipes; Master Closet - memories, Craig's hockey trophies, photos to sort.
We'll eventually out grow this new house and have to move again. But for now I swear we're never moving again. Not ever.
Monday, January 19, 2009
Being Sick Sucks
But my boys are sick. Ian had a fever all day yesterday that was only controlled with Tylenol. When the Tylenol would wear off his fever flew right back up to 102.5F. And he's not been very happy and is sleeping an awful lot too. Shaun's been fighting something all week and finally on Friday night it officially arrived. He's been waking up 3 or 4 times with a stuffy nose and cough for the past few nights. I'm not one to medicate my kids because I feel their bodies are fighting something so let the body do its job. But I hate to see such little bodies suffering. Especially Ian's. I want this cold gone fast. Thankfully I'm still healthy, knock on wood.
17 days!
